You know, back when I was icing these cookies, I caught myself thinking "why does every mom think she has to make pretty cookies?"
Well, the truth is not every mom does. This is a goal I set for myself.
One of my favorite traditions growing up was making Christmas cookies with my mom. And maybe they wouldn't win any artistic awards, but they were cute.
The ones I make with Jena? Not so much.
I want to make Christmas cookies with my kid, and I want them to be cute. And that's the extent of my reasoning behind this goal.
But fast forward another month, to my blender mishap, and a similar thought came to mind.
Why does our society tell us that every woman is a good cook?
I started to write "should be", but that's not the case. Society teaches us that every woman is a good cook, thereby inflating the "failure" of those who are not good in the kitchen.
I know I said some of this in my earlier post, but I am re-stating it here.
I am not naturally talented in the kitchen. Not in the least.
But I manage. I can feed my family.
My husband is a far better cook than I. Far better.
And I am okay with not being a good cook.
But I am not okay with being looked down on because I am not a good cook.
Being a mom, does not suddenly endow a woman with the ability to create a delicious meal from scratch.
Walking down the aisle does not include with it the ability to create taste titillating meals on a regular basis.
Being born with a vagina does not mean that I have some innate ability to cook.
And to assume so is incredibly sexist.
I cannot think of a single person in my circle who would disagree that every one of us is born with different talents, abilities, gifts, skills.
And yet we expect women, without exception, to be good in the kitchen.
When it comes to my struggles in the kitchen I have been told I just need to work harder. I have been laughed at. I have been told that a monkey can follow a recipe. I have been mocked. I have been made fun of. I have been teased.
I have been made to feel stupid, inadequate, and lacking as a wife & mother... as a woman... because I do not happen to possess this one particular skill.
And I am here to say that it needs to stop.
The truth is that we all have been born with different talents, different gifts. And thru our lives we develop different skills for different reasons.
And that's okay.
They are are valuable in their own right, and every person should be admired & respected for the things they can do, not mocked & ridiculed for what they can't.
And so I am here, saying loudly for all to hear, that I am, at best, a mediocre cook.
But I am an awesome wife. A fantastic mother. A woman with a bevy of other talents, skills, and abilities that serve me well.
Tonight I will feed my family a quick & easy meal. Perhaps some pre-packaged goodness. Or a crock pot dish. Or maybe my husband will cook tonight. And they will eat well. And we will be happy. Even though I can't cook.
As always, thanks for checking in!