So my earlier post reminded me of something that had been on my mind before.
The part about how I work in a culture where the vast majority of the wives (because I work with primarily men) are SAHMs / housewives.
There have been times in the past when I was lamenting about having to work (particularly when I was struggling thru my depression), when it did occur to me that what if part of the reason I was unhappy in my situation had more to do with the people I was surrounded with, than with my actual situation.
Does that make sense?
Because for 40 hours a week I am surrounded by men who do not seem to comprehend the idea of a wife (especially a mom) working because her family needs her income.
Now, if I were a high-powered career woman, maybe. There are a very few men here who are married to executives at other companies, doctors, lawyers, etc.
But a "low" paying (it's decent pay, but I'm saying from their perspective) job, not a career? Unheard of.
They simply do not comprehend the struggles of a working mom. They can't. Not only are they not working moms, their spouses aren't either.
These are people who have SAHMs who put their kids in daycare and have a cleaning lady.
The idea of a mom who works full time outside the home, is the primary caregiver of the children, and who handles the household chores is not in their realms of comprehension.
Oh, they know it, as in they know it on the surface. But they have no real understanding of it.
I've been told that leaving to pick up Jena from daycare (because I refuse to leave her there for 10 hours on a regular basis) was at first perceived to be a lack of dedication to my job. Until I explained it to them.
I don't have a spouse or paid nanny to pick up my child. Leaving work after putting in a full day is what I have to do, it's part of my life. I'm not lacking in dedication to my job, I just have a stronger dedication to my child.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I've sometimes wondered if I instead worked with a group that was primarily working moms, would my outlook be different? Would I feel more support, and therefore be happier with my situation myself?
In the end, while I don't think you can fully explain my dissatisfaction at working FT outside the home by the co-workers I am surrounded with, I do think it's an environment that exacerbates existing discontent.
What do you think?