Monday, July 19, 2010

Thoughts on Child Support

This has been eating at me for a while, so it's time to step on my soapbox and let 'er rip.

If you are in a position where you are asked or required to pay child support, you should be thankful that you are in a position to provide monetary support to your children, and stop your whining.

It seems like every time I turn around I hear a woman complaning about how the kids' dad is fighting child support. Or I hear a man complaining that the mother of his children is trying to get more money out of him.

*note* it's not always the man paying the mom. On occasion it's the other way around. But in our society, the majority is the mom with primary custody, and the dad paying child support to the mom. So that's how I'm wording it here.

I'm sick of it.

If you think the parent receiving the money on behalf of your children is abusing the system, then you need to report it to your caseworker & let the system (hopefully) do it's job.

In this regard, your job is to provide financial support for your kids. Period. Do your job, and stop worrying about what she's doing.

How could you possibly be ticked off that the person with custody of your children expects you to help support them financially?

So she moved into a new apartment / house? So what! That's a better living condition for your children.

So she bought a new car? So what! That's better, safer, more reliable transportation for your children.

I've also heard men complaining that the ex-wife is asking for more money, and if she gets it he will be left with so little income it will push him below the poverty line. I checked. He's right, it's true.

My response: why are you angry with her? be angry with the state that allows such standards, that sets the pay requirements.

I also know a man in a situation that he is working three jobs and just barely making it, because he owes so much child support to several different children, all by different mommas.

My response: put a sock in on it! Seriously. Ever heard of a condom?

Long story short, if you made the decision to have sex, you accepted that you might have kids, maybe even planned for it. If you have a child, you accepted that you would be responsible for that child, including monetary support. If you weren't willing to do that, then you should have never had sex.

Sounds drastic, right? Well, we're talking about a child here. It is serious, and should be taken seriously.

Just pay your dang support, 'kay? And stop freakin' whining about it.

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